Blahblahblah 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

two of my friends had a fight the other day and now they wont speak to each other, and im stuck in the middle of them.
i dont like to see such good freinds fight like this.
now they r threatening not to be my freind if i continue to hang with the other person.
i dan hardly think. its so fustrating!!

YoYo 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

fisrt off u need to give us more info so we can better understand the situation and better help u and your freinds
can i call u blah

Blahblahblah 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

ya u can call me blah.
so what u need from me

YoYo 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

what did they fight about
r they both guys or both girls
just stuff like that.
the jist

Blahblahblah 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

i dont know what they fought about.
but one is a guy and the ohter is a girl.

YoYo 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

r they a couple

Blahblahblah 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

dunno

YoYo 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

if they r a couple then they could have broke up or if they werent then ill need some help figuring this one out.

Blahblahblah 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

can no one else help me?

IdyotAko 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

Okay... first off... you don't know why the fight started, so I think it's best to like get your facts and ask both sides what happened.

Now once you know what the issue is, you may have a better understanding on how to go about the situation. It's hard to say or do anything without having all the facts straight. Once you know the situation, you can choose to post it here and we can see what we can advise.

Dynewind 1 year 11 months ago wrote:

hey blah and yoyo.....
u can talk to each other in teh real world right? since u guys r a couple.....
and give details.....
is it yoyo and <what's his name?....> someone who were in the class w/ yoyo

YoYo 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

what u mean name?

Calicien 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

Hmm, this is confusing.

Blah, I think you shouldn't go between them. Tell them their fight is THEIR fight. Why get in teh middle? It's their mess. If they choose to drag you in between their quarrel, telll them that you have nothing to do with it and they should keep you out of their whatever.

YoYo 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

Calicien does make a good point Blah

Dynewind 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

yeah blah
dude i feel weird saying 'blah'
hahaha
it's funny.....

Calicien 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

Blah, do you have other names with which we can address you?!

XIII09 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

a very good point indeed. if they tell you to choose sides, DON'T. it will only make it worse. just try to listen to their problems about the other and.....wait, what are they fighting about anyway?

YoYo 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

yeah being stuck in the middle or on one side can really hurt your freindship with the other one.
its best to be out of any cconflict if u can

Blahblahblah 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

Rose. u can call me Rose thats my real name

IdyotAko 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

The thinking of not getting into the middle of friends fighting is good for you, but not for your friends. Given that they are fighting, they are still your friends, and it's definitely very hard to have friends that dislike each other. You don't have to take sides, you just need to kinda be the mediator if you want to keep your friends.

Now... if the arguement is just something petty... it should straighten itself out without you having to do anything. If it's something more, then like I mentioned, get yer facts straight and react from there.

To Calicien: Would you really step back behind the scenes if two of your close friends all of a sudden decide they don't like each other? Wouldn't the first thing that comes to mind is "what the heck happened?", right? I seriously doubt you'd not do anything if something like that happens.

dycee29 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

i read your problem Rose, don't worry, i guess that it's quite normal that friends have some disagreements sometimes, as the one stuck in the middle, (and as a good friend of the both of them) i guess that you could try to console BOTH of them, don;t take sides....instead SUPPORT them both in a healthy way...they both need you now more than ever (well...this depends on the situation...which, i hope you could elaborate to us so that we could give you a better advice why did they fight? when did it start? how serious is the problem?) to start of...you could try to call them both...tell them to talk to each other, tell them to OPEN up...let them express their feelings...with you standing in the middle...in this way...you guys hear the sentiments of each other...and you could figure ways in dealing with the problem TOGETHER...hope that helps in this way...the THREE of you will continue your friendship and you will not end up losing both of them (or one of them in this matter)...it's better than you three retain your friendship...don't let one situation destroy the friendship that you already established *hugs Rose* I know that you're in a confused state right now...but I'm sure things will be better too one day


give us a feedback about your two friends...I do hope that they make up soon it's quite hard to know both of your friends fighting specially if you really have a close relationship together

Calicien 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

Sweet point, sir. But I believe that if I take sides, I wouldn't make a bias point. Of course I would see both sides and know what they're up to. But then again, with Rose's situation, how am I suppose to help these people out when I myself don't know what's really wrong with them?

@ Rose

Elaborate

Kinju 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

Normally, I WOULD get in the middle and see what's going on. Sometimes, if not most, friends fight over stupid things. If they were, then it's a very good thing if you did intervene. Just make sure you don't choose sides.

dycee29 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

^haha i LOL when you quote "most friends fight over stupid things" (dycee---> could relate ) but i'm glad because usually that makes friendship special you know...it's cute when you fight about petty stuff then you realize it and make up (and laugh loud with each other afterwards ^_~) real/true friends will not be destroyed just because of small things (then...if things turn out bad...then that only means that it's not true friendship afterall...true friends know how to understand each other and forgive each other ) also...that certain fight about a stupid thing will surely be a memory that you two will cherish forever (you know...when you two get a lil bit older...you'll tell each other "remember the time we fought about...blah blah blah" then both of you will laugh about it ^_~)

kalajel 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

I'd give you advice, but looks like its been pretty much covered by the other posts. Well maybe just one… No matter how serious their fight is, no friend should ever threaten you to choose between him or the other. You have the right to choose whomever you want as your firends and nobody should ever try to influence that decision, even another friend. I know that if one of my friends ever made me that kind of ultimatum, he'd be surprised by my choice…

Dynewind 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

nice avi kalajel!!! that's cute and funny!!!

@ blahblahblah.... nice name rose!!!
i see that your name resemble you.... hehehe

@yoyo: dont be mad!! i just praise her once right

@anyone else: yeah i just do that so whathehehe i'm in a weird mood right now...
sorryyy

Calicien 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

You are in that weird state since yesterday! Hahaha...

YoYo 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

what am i mad at?

XIII09 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

ok guys we're going off-topic..

@rose: can we know why they are fighting about?

Calicien 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

Yeah. I never knew what they're fighting about. Is it something simple or something so grave that you're bothered this much

YoYo 1 year 10 months ago wrote:

i think that she doednt know i mean if she did wouldnt she say what it was about