Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

How come parents always tell their kids that they know what's best for us, when they themselves don't really know what kids are up to?!?!?!?!!?!?

IdyotAko 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

Ironic, isn't it... unfortunately that's how it goes. Even if the parents seem to be a bit clueless, they are still your parents, so you have to give them their respect.

Now, the decisions the child/children make is not always the fault of the parents, but it is the parents responsibility to at least have an idea of what their kids are up to. A lot of kids try to make it as invasion of their privacy. What they don't understand is, they don't have any sort of right to privacy per se until they are 18... but even then, their decision-making could still be flawed. Parents are there to provide guidance.

YoYo 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

becuse..........they think they r so smart when they say theyve been throught the 80's or somethiing and they think that we r gong to make the same stupid mistakes that they made whe they were kids like dropping out of school or doing drugs they think we r stupid

Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

I don't do drugs, nor have been dropped out of school.

I'm just bothered by teh fact that my dad always rants about his being superior in this house, and that he's teh one making teh rules, and we live under his roof and that we have no choice but to obey. I don't know if I should call it being a "fun sucker", but he would not allow be to go out of town with my friends @ often times (like hello, I'm 20 years old, duh).

He would also scold me for being in a band. But hell, i love my band and I'm not quitting no matter what he does. It's my life outside teh house. I love playing and singing. Grrr!!!

He also thinks I'm spending too little time studying. It's so unfair already.

Israel 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

thats the way it is ....thing will never change....



in short





UR PARENTS LOVE YOU



i hope u get my point

Kinju 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

But they're too overprotective. What's wrong with being in a band or going out? Heck, you're older than me yet my parents still let me so what I want...as long as it's not something illegal, immoral or stuff like that.

Parents are really like that. Prolly something that happened in their childhood or they're just handing down some old habits or traditions or your dad's just having his mid-life crisis...

...that or he's got a superiority complex...

etc...

XIII09 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

hey, you can't blame your dad for being too overprotective. in his eyes, you're still his little girl/baby. lol. you should confront your dad and say to him that you're old enough to make your own decisions and stuff like that. it worked on me when i was 15. haha. (i got this advice from watching too many movies lol )

Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

And it pisses me off when his f*ckin girlfriend would snoop around my stuff and my sister's stuff and try to spy on what we're up to.

I want to kill that biatch!

XIII09 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

woah woah woah. stay cool. just lock your room when you leave and when she still snoops around ur stuff, tell your dad that it bothers you that much. just be like...zen. lol.

OR......(quoted from 'that 70's show')
"where zen ends, arse kicking begins.." hehe

fuse 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

I understand your frustration, as you get older you just realize when they say they want the best for you they do. When they say it's their house, their roof, their rules, they're saying "Please listen to me". That's not to say that they aren't overly protective or overly controlling.

I'm 21 years old, I still live at home because I'm going back to school. Concessions need to be made on both sides. Getting along means respecting what they say, and them equally respecting what you say.

I don't like being told what to do or being controlled. If my Mom comes up to me and says: "You're doing this too much", I usually get into a long angry arguement with her. I'm not very approachable in this way. So since I know I don't give her a chance to say much to me, I realize I gotta watch myself, and take responsibility of myself and what I do with my life.

I've finally reached the point with her that I just tell her everything I'm doing, and I noticed the more communcation I have with my parents, they more they let me get away with (aka not telling me what to do).

That's just my two cents: make concessions on both sides, love your family, keep open communcation, be yourself and do what you want (within reason).

hyouga 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

heh... I haven't personally had this problem in a while, and I probably haven't experienced it like most of you(I'm only 13... heh ^^, but I do know that parents tend to be more forgiving if you are relitivly easy to be around/live with. my oldest sis is 25, and she came to live with us for about 2 months while she got a job/apartment(she had just moved down from Kansas) and by the time she left, we were all totally pissed at her. she didn't watch Sean, my 2 year old nephew, well enough, she fed him huge amounts of cheese to get him to eat, and she never paid anyone for babysitting. (it doesn't help that she also had enough junk to fill 2 or 3 dumpsters. -.-) she also tends to yell when she doesn't get her way. (apparently, if we don't agree with her, we 'aren't listening/don't understand') anyways, I guess the point is you could try just not doing things you know annoy your parents. (within reason, of course.)

Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

As far as I know, I'm not really doing anything to annoy my dad. He's already running my life - like hello it's called MY LIFE?! He picked teh course he wants me to study, he plans everything that I should do. He even told me that after graduating, Ii'm going to be teh one to send my youngest sister to school (she's only 1 year old now).

Apparently, my dad's youngest sister who's living @ California right now together with their parents (my grandparents) bought and condo and told me "You get here fast and work because you'll pay a share in this condo."

So, I haven't graduated yet from college (which is just 6 months from now), haven't taken teh board exam and teh CGFNS and NCLEX-RN and all those exams - and I already have too many duties to attend to.

Plus, teh fact that my dad wants me to simply obey like super everything in teh house for no apparent reason makes me sick. I mean, I know for a fact that I've been a really very obedient daughter, but he's already gone too far..

Especially when his bitchy girlfriend would try to butt in with our own family problems. I don't really like her, after every spying and snooping around. She would even ask me "Who's that guy's name you've wrote at teh back of a receit that I saw on your desk?" WTF! Why won't she stop touching what's mine?!

I so hate her. I want her out of our lives - if not only for my dad. Grrr!!! I so so so hate her!!!!!!!!!!!

dycee29 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

*dycee gets a fan and cools calicien's head*

Hey friend...i never knew that "she who must not be named" is pestering your stuff (and your room in that matter!!) oh my god! your dad should know about that...

I guess good communication is the key..try telling your father what you feel...perhaps he's also encountering problems of his own and is in a very confusing state right now...i guess he needs you and your sister more than ever right now (that's why he is being overprotective and stuff...maybe he feels that he's going to lose you one day, specially now that we're about to graduate already) My dad is kinda overprotective to me right now too (specially now that i live on my own <with a younger brother to look after to boot!>...i commute...stuff like that) they feel that we're "straying" out of their borders already...i told him that "i'm still your little girl hehehe " well when i joked that to him he kinda loosened up a bit...i also told him that I'm 20 already so I guess i can handle some stuff on my own (well...you know how dependent i am right? so of course i told him that doesnt mean i'm putting them away of my life, i still need them...i have to admit that) and i guess that it's normal (stage of development? ring any bells? in psych? hehe) perhaps our parents are in the stage where they're confused about certain things...and hey...they being overprotective is plain obvious that they only care for us and that they love us ^_~ I guess you should try to understand him too (but of course...he should understand your sentiments also...that's why you should talk to him...have a one-on-one daughter to father chat ^_~) i hope that helps...i don;t know the whole story so i guess this is the only way i could help...try telling me this when we meet at school okei? ^_~ don;t worry, I also experience parents problem you know!!

Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

/swt

I already have too many craps going on at school. >_>;

My dad is not teh 'listening type' of dad. I should know. I've been with him for 20 years, and all he wants is what he wants to happen.

Sheeesh......

Kinju 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

...

...

...I'd love to kick their asses right about now...

...

dycee29 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

i simply chuckled on this one ^.^ no comment here


@calicien: /pif /swt hmmm....i see...you have a lot of crap to deal with at school....okeiiiii....anyway...goodluck with your problems...just in case you need any help, don't hesitate to ask

XIII09 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

LOL!

@calicien: yous should talk to your dad about his girlfriend snooping around your stuff.

kung ako ikaw, sapak na abot ng GF ng dad mo. hehehe

(i'm sure you guys understand that )

dycee29 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

^hehe...unfortunately, she stated already that her dad won;t listen ~_~ it's really sad though

and yeah...siguro kung ako rin yun sapak na rin ang naabot ng GF ng dad niya (mej gentle pa nga yun e!! pag ako nalaman kong pinakikialamanan ang gamit ko naku!! bubuhos ng dugo!! ) by the way. mejo OT...napagkamalan ko nga palang yaya slash katulong yung GF ng dad niya nung minsang napadpad ako sa bahay nila calicien (wah!! ang sama ko!!! nakakahiya nga e...pero sobrang honest mistake yung nangyari...napagkamalan ko kasi, nung time na yun ata kakauwi lang ng kasambahay nila calicien tapos ang sabi ko ata nun "calicien siya ba yung pumalit kay ate" nakakahiya...sana nalang hindi niya ako naringi ~_~)

@everyone: sorry if we used our own language

Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

Our language: Grabe, kung alam niyo lang kung gano ko siya ka-ayaw. Gusto ko siya murahin at sabihing "KAYA KA NANDITO DAHIL SA TATAY KO, DI DAHIL GUSTO NAMIN. GAGO!"

In English: "Go to hell b*t*h."

dycee29 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

OUR LANGUAGE: hehe alam ko...halata namang galit na galit ka e wakokokokoness pero easy ka lang friend...relax lang...isipin mo na lang pagkagraduate naten hindi mo na rin siya makikita...tiis ka nalang for now

In English: Yeah...She's a bi@tch i know based from your stories

YoYo 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

yeah sometimes i just want to kick there asses
exspecially when they dinie me what i want

Mimi_C 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

I find parent hating topics quite immature. Don't you guys know that you owe them what you have now? If it weren't for your parents, you'll just be another kubori kikiam.

dycee29 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

^actually...it depends on the situation...and talking about stuff like this is not immature (well...for me at least) it's just a way of expressing yourself...a healthy way of releasing anger perhaps ^_~...expressing how you feel and stuff...anger management...whatever description fits (you know...freely talking about it...than keeping everything inside?), i guess nobody's perfect...not all families are perfect...calicien's family is different from my family and is different from your family too or to anyone in this website for this matter...you have a point that "we owe them our lives and without them we're not here..." but...I think Calicien have her own reasons for being angry or for making this topic (which...by the way I don;t want to call a "parent hating" topic since Calicien only asked for other people's advice and stuff and the person she's hating is not actually her mom ehehehe it's her dad's GF and she does'nt owe her anything...well, perhaps she also got mad with her dad because of...well...erm...because of "she who must not be named GF" who snoops around her room and butts in her personal life...it's a chain
reaction i guess and for me...this sitaution could be well...it will really anger anyone right?...I think it's plain normal to get mad if you're in this situation too)

I think it's good to post topics like this because in this way...we could see different points of view from different people (like the opinion you just gave /no1) I guess it depends on the kind of replies we get (if it's sensible or not at all...but hey...every reply must have a meaning behind it...if we will just read between the lines )

bah! I'm talking nonesense again! maybe it's because of my exams earlier

YoYo 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

who

and if i didnt show my anger or express it i would kick their asses

Israel 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

instead ranting about those parents stuff, you should be thankfull that they did not took you for granted.

u should be thankful that they gave u food,shelter,good education and most aof all love.

isntead of thinking that they are so mean to u,why dont u think twice instead and think that ur the one whos mean to them, u didnt even gave back the love that they gave to um instead ur here in rohq ranting how strickt and mean they are.


what would you feel if one day ur parents wont mind u like ur invisible or something.

"u might say, why are u controlling my life u know that this is my life!"

think twice girl. its them who gave u life and u should respect what they think whats best for you


its really quite immature when u rant how strick ur parents are.


good thing u werent aborted when u were still a baby inside ur moms tummy.

dycee29 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

what the hell is happening here people? *dycee is now confused*

@Izzy: to whom are you replying? who said about not being thankful? who gave you that idea in the first place? we're not even talking about moms here for Christ's sake!

and what's this thing about "think twice girl"...to whom are you replying this too? What made you think about people here being mean to their parents? Do you know them in person? What made you think that?

sorry it's quite confusing if you will not state to whom you're replying this advice is for (by the way... let me get things straight...I'm just someone who dropped by this thread to give advice since Calicien is a dear friend of mine...IN REAL LIFE (we're classmates)...and I know parts of her situation...and thought that if she'll read this stuff...well....most probably she'll get hurt (or annoyed)....i'm sorry, but you just won't understand her situation unless you're in her shoes maybe...)


to everyone in this thread: please please oh please...read the other posts first before ranting about your beliefs and stuff.....try to be open minded...read first the other [posts so that you'll get the topic /swt


and again...I don;t even consider these as a rant thread or a "parents hating" thread...I don;t want to repeat myself...read my post up there *points at above posts*


>sorry guys...I'm not quite in a good mood today peace<

Israel 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

Those who oppose this topic slash call this "parent hating"

It's not parent hating. It's situation hating. Hating it doesn't conclude that I'm not thankful they brought me to life.

Sheeesh.

I just want to point teh part where teh parents are suppose to let their kids grow up. It's not all teh time babies will be babies and dependency would always be an issue.

So this is not at all immature.

Get it?!>

dycee29 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

very well said she said the explanation i've been looking for (thanks calicien)

like what i've said for the nth time...this is not a "parent-hating" thread like what cal said...it's the situation that she hates...hope that everyone understands that now



peace minna /no1

Dynewind 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

why dont you put extra protection to ur room
u know... i that girlfriend of ur dad want to know u...
she might try anything to make u feel comfy with her and accept her
it's just her way of showing it wrong....
coz she know that u wont talk to her,... then how can she know u more?
and u can just writte u know... my friend, if they got in a fight... they dont talk... they write with marker on the window... and they reply each other until it's solved..... it's nice way of showing ur emotions... dont use cruses and bad word tough... and dont us "you" massage...
i mean dont be like... "you broke my TV" but use "i" massage... it work better.... "i believe that my TV is broken"...... and for that GF od ur dad... u can just open ur room and put a notes on ur table..... "i dont care if u came in here but please dont look at my stuff coz it's private" but of course/... use better wording than me... hahaha

Calicien 19 years 9 months ago wrote:

Idea's pretty nice actually. But hell, I can't force myself to like her no matter how hard I try. She's been in this house for more than a year, and all those months of trying to accept her and her "trying to reach out" idea isn't just appealing.

I'm just gonna live with teh fact that we're stucked together in this house until teh day I leave and get married. Sheeeeesh..............